When I was initially diagnosed at 29 I was relieved. But that is not the case for most. Getting such a stigmatized diagnosis can be heartbreaking. Words like “incurable” or “manipulative narcissists” come to mind. They swirl around your head like a haunting ghost staining your happy future. So I started studying BPD, what I found out was that the stigma behind it is preventing patience from getting therapy. Therapists are not accepting BPD cases, which is a disgrace. When I researched this, it broke my heart. Not being able to receive treatment for a disorder is shameful. The BPD life is a hard life to live.
I had spent my whole life being told I was overreacting and nothing was as serious as I thought it was. The Borderline Personality Disorder explained so much in my life. I had always knew I was different in my perception of life and people. My mind is black and white. Everything falls in to one of two categories. It's either the best thing in the world, or the absolute worst. It's not a healthy way of thinking and can cause several issues. I had trouble keeping long term friendships because of my emotional irregularity. I defined "the crazy redhead".
Looking back, I don't know what I would have done without therapy. I was on the brink of suicide and couldn't handle the flashbacks. See the thing about personality disorders is that it stems from childhood abuse, from brain malfunction and inadequate upbringing to social and cultural conditions. It feels like we never had a shot at having a healthy life. With upbringings that stifle growth instead of encouraging, there's a slim chance the they'll have the emotional control and the stigma will continue. This is why therapy is so vital to Borders. There needs to be rewiring of the brain in to function half way neurotically. There's needs to be confirmation that our loved ones will not abandon us in our darkest hour or label us as manipulative and dramatic.
Going through DBT therapy helped my emotional regulation and taught me how to be mindful. EMDR was so very difficult to go through, but it was worth it. My life has changed for the better , mostly, since diagnosis. Hopefully your research of what the diagnosis entails will enlighten your mind and allow to accept that you or a loved on has BPD. Because that is how you help a loved one with BPD, is by acceptance. When we are terrified that you are going to leave, we act out. Push people away so we don't get hurt. So when we are in are deepest low, we will come back out of it a lot faster if you stick by our side.